As an empath it used to be a challenge for me to know where my experience ended and someone else’s began. As a child I felt other people’s pain so strongly that I took it on as my own.
I was unaware of my gift, had never learned about what it meant to be an empath. What I knew is that I felt acute pain around some people and I didn’t understand that it was not my pain.
I avoided certain people and situations because what I felt was unbearable. I remember feeling other people's embarrassment so strongly it brought tears to my eyes. I could not stand to witness bullying and stepped in the middle of situations that could have got me punched many times.
In high school I had a lot of trouble with anger. I felt angry all the time and really didn’t know why. I think that my own teenage angst was amplified by all of the others around me to the point that I lashed out for no reason. That anger seemed to just disappear after graduation.
I remember the first time I learned about empaths, I was in my early 20’s, and I was so relieved to hear that other people felt things the way I did. I have spent the last 20 years learning about my own style of empathy and how to use it to help others, but also how to develop boundaries that have given me my own emotions back.
Being an empath gives me a unique perspective on the human race. I have the opportunity to get a glimpse into what it feels like to be someone else. Not everyone can do that. It isn’t a complete picture and I would never say that I know what it feels like to be you, but I do get a chance to feel a small part of what it is like to be you.
Empaths need boundaries, we need to know where we end and someone else begins. This brings relief and control back to our emotions. It also helps us to stay focused on our own lives, and not on trying to fix everyone else.
I went deeper on with this topic on my radio show, Kindred Spirits.
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Kristi Brower is a professional Psychic and Master Healer at 12listen.com. She loves to mentor empaths, teach metaphysical classes and give life changing readings and healings. You can schedule a session with Kristi here.